Thank you Justus and Jayko for working your magic!!
Sometimes anger, hurt, jealousy or insecurity comes out in destructive ways. Your neighbor, who built that beautiful house in Minecraft, enrages you and you find yourself torching the house when the owner is away. Or maybe someone is mean…, rejecting you. You are so deeply hurt that you lash out later in an act of revenge. Even grownups struggle with these strong emotions sometimes. Later you may feel sorry, but is that enough? Regret is a very important first step, but it is not enough. Restorative Justice requires listening to the one who you have wronged, REALLY listening. This process of deep listening always turns regret into remorse, remorse becomes the desire to “make it right.” In this process of accountability everyone wins. Punishment is no longer a part of the equation, instead the entire community rallies to restore that which has been ruined or lost. A whole gaggle of children work to build a mansion that replaces the destroyed house, enthusiastically supporting the efforts at healing.
If you as a parent or teacher are looking for ways to build that sense of conscience, or move away from the ineffective punishment model, this article is a good place to start. Restorative Justice, a Different Approach to Discipline
This is the perfect, creepy, scary week to cover the topic of Internet Safety. Today we talked about how to vet a news story, cross-reference a link, and investigate the truth. Here is more information that you and your family can talk about over dinner: http://www.npr.org/sections/alltechconsidered/2016/12/05/503581220/fake-or-real-how-to-self-check-the-news-and-get-the-facts
Over the years, we at Fidgets2widgets have become familiar with a plethora of Special Needs acronyms thrown around out there. Parents come to us whispering these terms through clenched jaws: ADD/ADHD/OCD/ODD/IEP/2XE. After years of advocacy at school, in sports clubs, at church, parents feel marginalized and exhausted from their superhuman efforts. Take heart! Your child is an amazing presence on this planet. They are more than their diagnosis and you are more than their advocate. You are a parent. You deserve to enjoy the experience of parenting! 70% of the children attending F2W are ADD/ADHD, on an IEP at school or otherwise labeled special needs. Amazingly, once kids find their tribe, feel accepted for who they are and no longer feel left to struggle under the weight of a label, they come alive. Without the fear of wiggling too much or making too much noise, these kids bounce on yoga balls while intensely focusing their attention. Music flows through headphones, Hokki stools gyrate as these talented adults of tomorrow create animated videos, slideshows, virtual worlds, math spreadsheets, hydro powered factories and virtual scientific experiments. We marvel at the genius before us!
The leaders at F2W, themselves movers and shakers and outside the box thinkers, can relate and support your unique learner. Our goal is to create a safe and nurturing space where those who fidget can thrive and grow. No need to whisper acronyms in hushed tones. Hold your head high and speak with confidence, for you are the parent of an amazing and gifted child!
Our focus this week in our afternoon learning module is Civics. There is a fun online site that makes learning about government interesting called iCivics. Yesterday we talked about our rights as individuals and today we are exploring how to present an argument. So, if you find your Widgetarian especially argumentative, they just may be practicing!
Watch our talented actors and actresses as they film f2w shorts.
Middle Schoolers worshipping the drone during YouTube Week. Taking awesome footage this week from the skies…..
Walking into the computer room at Fidgets2Widgets that’s affectionately nicknamed after Minecraft’s Nether realm, I noticed muted giggling taking place in a corner at one of the computers. Two third grade girls were flushed and smiling. I heard a couple of phrases that included words like “yummy, so much fun, awesome.”
“What are you two up to?” I questioned.
“We’re going to share the most amazing dessert at snack time,” Molly responded.
“A seven-layer cake,” Megan giggled.
My furrowed brow deepened and my investigation began in earnest. As it turned out, one of the girls had memorized her mother’s credit card number and in her generosity, ordered a cake for her friends from an online company. In the spontaneity of the moment, the lines between right and wrong had become blurred. Neither girl had any sense of concern.
Everyday, I am starting to read real stories in the news about youth who act with carelessness and irresponsibility online. From the young men whose Harvard University acceptances were rescinded after creating a secret, hateful Facebook page, to a young NSA-contracted woman who, depending on your point of view, either inadvertently copied classified information to a flash drive or tried to enact an act of espionage. Today, a verdict of involuntary manslaughter was handed down to a young woman who as a teenage girl sent texts encouraging her boyfriend to kill himself. Locally, several seniors were charged with child pornography after soliciting nude pictures of their underage girlfriends.
What do these all-too-common news story tell us? Our children must develop strength of character online and offline.There is no such thing as true digital privacy and life-altering consequences are starting to emerge. Online play is no longer innocent. As parents, guardians, or trusted adults to the young people in our lives, we have a responsibility to help them grow into good digital citizens—people who can discern right from wrong even from behind a keyboard or in front of a screen. If your child is old enough to be on the internet, they are old enough to have these conversations with you. Here are three things to keep in mind when talking to your child.
2. Hurting or Helping Actions? Will others be empowered by your actions or disempowered? Are your actions permanent or temporary? Will there be short term or long term consequences?
3. Right from Wrong: As real world consequences can be imposed on your child’s actions, make sure they have a lawful creed as well as an ethical one. As your child becomes a teen, make sure they know what actions could cross a line of no return.
There are a lot of articles and blog posts out there assigning blame to parents, the kids, Millennials as a generation, technology, and anything else you can think of. The truth of who to blame is neither one nor all of these, but that isn’t the point of this post. The point is to draw attention to one way we can help our kids to avoid finding themselves the subject of a news article and jail time—communication. We can no longer assume children will learn these lessons on their own. It is our job to be a good example to them, yes, but it’s time to have the hard conversations about right and wrong, about being safe online, and treating others as we want to be treated. These are simple conversations on the surface, but we all know they can be harder to have a sit-down serious talk over. But clearly there is a need for it. Fidgets2Widgets is here to empower and support in whatever ways we can, both with you and your children!
The time is now. Stand up—or rather, sit down and have these conversations with your children today.