Fearless parenting requires two things. First, you must trust yourself. Second, you must trust your child. You can do both. From the time you held that beautiful infant in your arms until today, your child has been guiding you. Simple at first, it just started with, “I’m hungry, I hurt, I need you.” Over time the messages have become more sophisticated. “Math is too hard for me. I am afraid of tests. I want to play with that amazing toy I saw on T.V.” Too often we counter these childish expressions with our adult “wet blanket” perspective. We argue with, “Math is too hard. ” We insist that, “You have a good head for math!” “I’m afraid of tests,” becomes a lecture on studying habits. The “amazing toy” comment is quickly and unceremoniously dismissed. Not so FAST! What if you trusted that each and every message your child was relaying was the truth, a truth you could trust?
A comment about math being too hard does not require that you immediately hire a tutor. Listen closely and ask a few careful questions. “Do you like math or does it scare you?” “If you could tell me one thing you do easily in math, what is it?” These types of questions, questions that are FEARLESS, lead us to the real solutions. Your kids trust you when you are fearless and take your time finding the answer. As you know by now, childhood takes its time and is sweetest when it is unhurried. Rushing about, grasping for answers is a fools journey. And you’re no fool! You are a fearless parent.