Creating Safety

It can be difficult to know how to handle your child’s fear. Do you talk it through, using logic and reason? Do you reassure and comfort, or give them space to figure it out for themselves? Children need to “feel” safe. They need to know that the earth beneath their feet is solid, that the container we call “home” is always there for them. Little ones need physical comfort (i.e. holding/rocking, touching, soothing) and vocalizations that are calming. Older kids need help facing their fear and articulating what they feel. They need us to listen, affirm, comfort and gently re-direct their attention. Negating, minimizing, teasing, ridiculing and challenging perceptions are all energies that fuel fear. Even as adults, returning to the source of our fear/anxiety and using these strategies helps us heal.

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