I often hear from parents who ask about how to set boundaries. Afraid of repeating some of the mistakes from their childhoods, they want to use reason as they discipline and guide their children. Unfortunately, much of the time I witness parents talking about, negotiating or maneuvering around the boundaries. My best advice….”Don’t talk about the boundaries. BE the boundary.” If you envision yourself as “being” the boundary you are trying to set, your child will feel the difference. Believing you mean what you say because you embody it, they will cooperate and behaviors will change.